If you have children over 8 years old, chances are they have asked for a "My Space." And you have probably also heard all kinds of stories about how unsafe My Space is. Adult predators lurking, searching for young children to prey upon. Can this happen? Absolutely! But with continued supervision, you child's My Space can actually be fun, and a help to you as well!
But what is My Space? It enables both kids and adults to have their own "home page," and lets their friends attach to it and make comments back and forth. You can add pictures, videos and music as well as tailor the background to show your personality. If allowed to roam My Space alone, a child can get in to deep trouble and will be privy to pictures and writing that children should not see. But if a child's My Space is managed by an adult, it can be a fun way for kids to talk online.
To keep your child's My Space safe, help him or her set it up. You will be asked a series of questions, including whether the space should be private or not. Opt for private, and check every setting that asks if posts and friends must be approved before publishing. Once these settings are in place, no one in the general public can view your child's space or anything about him or her. However, if a friend knows your child's name, the friend can search for it. Once the friend finds your child's name, a page comes up explaining your child's space is private, and would they like to request permission to view it. This person needs to either know your child's personal email address or correct last name.
The next time your child logs in, he will see a message from his friend, requesting permission to become a "friend." If your child approves the email, he will get a new "friend" on his My Space. Now both of them can send messages back and forth, which will be posted on eachother's My Space.
Even though your child's space is private, be sure he or she knows not to list your city, school name or any other personal information on the page. I have my child listed as 99 years old, living in a completely different state than our own. I know that only friends can view his space, but you just can't be too careful.
Now let me tell you why I like this system. My son and I have an agreement. I know his login and his password. If he ever changes the password, he is off of My Space for good. I can view his space (and do!) at any time to read his messages from his friends. Then I go to his friends' spaces and look at all the posts they have as well. The benefit of this as a mother? Now I can see which of my son's school friends are innappropriate or disrespectful! They don't know I'm looking and write whatever they choose. Fortunately, 90% of the friends David talks to are good kids who are just having fun talking. Of course, there is always a bad apple in the bunch, but now I know which ones those are.
Word has it that some children make a space that only their parents can see, and then make another one in private with inappropriate images and messages on them. My answer to that? Do what I do - keep the child's computer in the middle of the living room where everyone can see what is on the screen. Keep track of how long your child spends on it, and make it a point to look behind your child every chance you get. If your child comes home before you do and you don't trust him or her, take the keyboard with you - or even better - the dsl modem!
And the best part? I made my OWN My Space. I've got a cool pink tie dye background, videos, pictures... and the whole page opens to the song "Melt With You!" But you can't see it - sorry - I made it private!